A Sermon preached on Whit Monday (May
21 2018) at the „Gottesdienst International“ in the Marktkirche, Wiesbaden on Ephesians 4: 11 - 16
The word or phrase that jumped out to me and that I
want to talk about is in verse 15: “But speaking truth in love, we must grow up
in every way into him who is the head.” In
the German, at least in the Lutherbibel
it actually sounds quite different: “Lasst uns aber wahrhaftig sein in der
Liebe und wachsen in allen Stücken zu dem hin, der das Haupt ist.” The ultimate aim, the
head, is the same, the path sounds different. I
have to go the Genfer Bibel or to the
Einheitsübersetzung to find something
similar to the English: “Von der Liebe geleitet an die Wahrheit halten” or „In
einem Geist der Liebe an der Wahrheit festhalten.“ Who would have thought
that Geneva and Rome were so close theologically …..
As an aside – this is a great example of how every
translation is also an interpretation and why we have to be very careful when someone
says they know exactly what the Bible is telling us to do … except for me of
course, in this reflection.
The call to speak the truth in love is I
believe a key quality for all Christians. It is what builds up the body of
Christ that is the church, it is what is required on our part to bring about
God’s kingdom. But it’s difficult. Too often we do one and not the other. When
John the Baptist calls the Pharisees a brood of vipers, (Matthew 12:34) I’m not
hearing the love. Even Jesus seems to miss the mark sometimes: “Woe to you,
scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! You blind fools,” (Matthew 23:13, 17) sounds
to me as if his impatience at their inability to understand who he was, why he
had come, and who had sent him, was getting away with him. So, don’t get too
worried if you do not always manage either. Just keep trying.
There are two problems if we only speak the truth
without any moderation. For one thing, if it is too aggressive, too loud, and
too strident, people won’t hear what we are saying. They will clam up. They
will close their ears, they will go into the defensive. The other problem is
that it is not Christian. The truth of the God of love cannot be commended by
loveless speech.
On the other hand, speaking only in love, at least a
misunderstood form of love, could mean not calling people to account, not criticising
at all – because everything is OK, not warning about harm, including the
potential to self-harm, and not using our prophetic voice to say what has to
change so that we can all grow into the full stature of Christ.
How do we speak truth in love, how do we manage what is
an inherent tension between love and judgement?
Even when we disagree violently with another person we
must never forget that they too are made in the image of God, they too are
fully human. To take two recent negative examples. Talking about immigrants, Mr.
Trump said ““These aren’t people, these are animals.” On the same subject, Alice
Weidel from the AfD referred to „Kopftuchmädchen und alimentierte Messermänner
und sonstige Taugenichtse.“ Both of them are plain wrong, both are dehumanising
others. They have a right to criticise what they see as mistakes, but they have
no right at all ever to use these terms. However difficult it may be, and in
the case of those two persons I find it difficult, I must nevertheless always
respect the person, just not their cause or their case.
When we speak truth in love this also happens at a
personal level, one-to-one, it is not just a political matter. One aspect is to
know not just how to speak truth, but where to do it. The Bible teaches us to
confront someone privately (Matthew 18:15), not publicly. But nowadays we seem to
be going in the opposite direction. Personal confrontation on social media or
via mass email will never be speaking truth in love.
One of the virtues which made the early Church so
revolutionary was how its members treated one another. “See how they love one
another” is what the Romans are supposed to have said about the early Christians.
Everyone has a place at God’s table, all are dignified reflections of our
creator. If we think someone has sinned, we confront them humbly, with genuine
concern and strong conviction.
Most of all speaking truth in love is always constructive.
It is a gift, just like the various functions the author mentions. But its sole
purpose is to promote the church’s and the world’s growth in building itself up
in love (Eph. 4:16). If it does not do that, it is either not the truth or not
in love.
Amen.